In the beginning, it felt like magic.
He pursued her...gently at first, then all in.
He showed up, made effort, expressed interest.
She felt seen, chosen, loved.
She thought, “He gives so much… maybe I should give my all too.”
And so she did.
She began to pour her love into him, with tenderness, care, and devotion. Not out of need, but as a beautiful response to being loved.
But slowly, almost imperceptibly… something shifted.
He began to retreat.
Not because he didn’t love her.
Not because she did anything wrong.
But because this is the quiet tension no one teaches us about:
A man feels most alive when he gives.
A woman shines most when she receives.
When this natural rhythm gets reversed, a subtle imbalance begins.
She feels the shift, and tries to restore the closeness, by giving even more.
She over-functions. She gives from an empty tank.
Hoping her love will pull him closer again.
He, without even realizing, begins to associate retreat with reward... her affection keeps flowing, even as he steps back.
And the dynamic deepens.
She starts to feel unseen. Unappreciated. Tired.
He feels confused....what happened to the sweet harmony they had?
But here’s the thing:
It is not wrong for a woman to give.
We are nurturing by nature.
But only when we are full, when our giving flows from a place of joy, not fear. Of abundance, not emptiness.
We are not meant to chase love.
We are meant to receive it.
To sit in our worth.
To let our radiance call forth the part of him that wants to give.
Because a man doesn’t love you more when you give more.
He loves you deeper when he feels his love makes you glow.
So let yourself be loved. Let yourself receive.
There is no shame in it.
In fact, it’s what your heart was designed for. 🌿
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