It Wasn’t Another Woman. It Was Her Fear.

When Nothing Was There… Yet

Women sense things.

A pause. A shift. A feeling that he’s not quite here.

You don’t know why, but suddenly, your heart is alert.

You feel distant from him... even if he’s right beside you.

And before you even realize it, your mind begins searching.

“Is he hiding something?”

“Is there someone else?”

“Why is he pulling away?”

The truth is…men retreat sometimes.

Not always because of another woman.

Not even because something is wrong.

It’s how they process, recalibrate, protect their inner space.

But to a woman’s heart, it can feel like distance.

Like disconnection. Like a threat.

And so you start checking. Watching.

Feeling unsettled when he takes too long to reply.

Suspicious when he seems distracted.

Your attention turns fully toward him, and away from yourself.

You bring it up to your girlfriends.

You tell them what you’re sensing.

And of course... they agree.

They say, “Something’s off. I think you’re right.”

Now your fear feels justified.

And the obsession begins.

You go deeper into proving what can’t be proven.

You begin looking for her. Even if she never existed.

The softness you had begins to tighten.

The openness you shared becomes guarded.

And the space between you shifts.

Not because there was another woman.

But because your energy is no longer anchored in you.

You are now orbiting him.

And the more you try to hold on, the more you energetically push him…

until one day, he actually meets someone else.

You feel validated.

“I knew it,” you say.

But the truth is…maybe she didn’t exist at all in the beginning.

Maybe it was the energy...

the fear, the tension, the disconnect from yourself...

that shaped the path.

Not your fault. Not his.

Just an unconscious dance.

One that many of us never realize we’re doing.

Until we do.

💫A quiet note from my heart :

I’ve felt it too.... that sinking pull in the heart when something feels off. I’ve peeked once or twice, just to make sure… but each time, it felt worse, not better and so, I stopped. It took me a while to understand... it wasn’t about another woman. It was about the part of me that needed reassurance… from myself ❤️

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