Here I share questions people often ask about love, emotions, and the spaces in between - along with reflections drawn from my own intuitive understanding and experience. Each question is a mirror, inviting us to look a little deeper within ourselves. There’s no fixed formula to love or healing…only what feels true to our heart in each moment.
1. Is it considered cheating if my partner keeps messaging other women about his fantasies? He’s promised to stop many times, but after years, he still repeats the same behaviour. I’ve given him many chances - what should I do?
It’s normal for men to fantasise - just often in a different way than women do. That’s why we sometimes feel offended or upset about it. We may think they’re no longer interested in us and try to stop them, but that’s usually not the case. When we stop taking it personally and approach it with a lighter heart, we may realise it’s simply how most men are. In fact, being curious about their fantasies can sometimes bring more openness and intimacy between us.
2. How can a woman tell if a man genuinely cares for her and isn’t just using her?
We can usually tell by their actions…but only when we stop overcompensating for them with our money, time, or effort. When we shift the focus back to ourselves and how we truly feel, the truth always reveals itself… we’ll know if they’re genuine and really meant for us.
3. Will he ever be honest enough to tell me he doesn’t love me? Or is it something I’ll have to find the courage within myself to accept and walk away from?
It does take courage to leave a long-term relationship, and it’s perfectly alright to feel reluctant. When we’re in dilemma, it helps to let things breathe for a while…when the timing is right, we’ll know. Sometimes we don’t need to force a decision; we can simply allow it to unfold naturally.
4. Can taking a break sometimes be good for a relationship?
A break in a relationship can actually be healthy, as long as the intention is purely to give each other space to reconnect with our true selves.
5. Why does it always end this way…I give someone a chance, open my heart, and end up broken again? Why do they change so suddenly, turning cold and almost cruel during the breakup, as if all the love we shared never meant anything?
Someone once said to me…we can only see our true personality in the moment of a breakup. When we’re in a relationship, we’re holding on to the possibilities….what could be, or what we could get from it…so we hold back. If they had truly loved us before, it would still hurt them to be harsh or mean during the breakup. In the end, their behaviour tells us everything.
6. Is it ok to go on dates with different men around the same time?
Although technically there’s nothing wrong with it, dating different men around the same time can sometimes leave our energy feeling scattered. It really depends on what we’re looking for…a genuine relationship or casual dating. Allowing some space in between dates can give us more clarity about how we truly feel about each person.
7. Is it normal to feel lonely even if you have friends?
Yes, it’s normal to feel that way when we’re disconnected from our true self. When we notice certain circumstances or events no longer satisfy us, it usually signals that we’ve neglected something very important…our inner self. At that point, we can either keep chasing external factors and still feel the void and loneliness, or we can turn inward and find fulfilment from within.
6. What do I do about the person who thinks that my best work isn't my best?
There’s nothing we can do about what others think, and we’re not supposed to anyway. If we believe it’s already our best, that’s more than enough.
(More reflections will be added gently over time…) 🌙
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