Why Staying True to Yourself Attracts the Right People

 

I remember in my early days, adjusting myself just to keep someone or something in my life…a friend…a family.

I bought them things, initiated connection, made time for them, always hoping they would do the same. But slowly, I realised that no amount of adjusting or dismissing myself could truly please them…without me eventually becoming a doormat. Yes, I learnt this the hard way.

One day, still young, I decided to stop ignoring how I felt inside whenever I behaved that way…unworthy, depressed, unloved, insecure. None of these feelings were ever true, but because the thought of keeping them around made me happy, I unknowingly neglected myself in the process.

Along my journey, people came and left…some stayed with me for decades. I realised that those who left were never meant to stay in the first place…and for that, I am thankful. In the end, I understood that I was never meant to please everyone just to keep them. I was meant to stay true to who I really am, because only then can the ones truly meant for me find their way back.

Maybe you’ve felt this too…bending yourself to keep someone, only to realise it cost you your own heart. If so, let this be a reminder…you are already enough, and the ones meant for you will never need you to shrink.

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Along my journey, I’ve learned that being true to myself is the only way to draw in what’s truly meant for me. If you’ve ever found yourself bending, adjusting, or questioning your worth just to keep someone close…you’re not alone. If this speaks to you, you may explore the Sessions & Offerings page…where I share spaces for deeper emotional clarity and guidance.

No judgment. No performance. No trying to be someone else. Just presence, reflection, and a soft reminder: the right connections never ask you to abandon yourself.

Because you deserve to be heard. 🤍

A Guide to Long-Lasting Soulful Relationships: Trusting Divine Timing Over Deadlines

We’ve been taught since young that everything has a deadline, a timeframe to follow. So we try, even rush, to meet whatever timeline is given to us…and unconsciously, we carry the same pattern into relationships. We feel that there’s a need for deadline for when to get married, when to have children… and as time passes, we forget about trusting divine timing.

We start believing there’s a guideline for the relationship journey:

How long should we date before talking about marriage? 
How long is a break considered “normal”? 
How long should it take for him to come back after pulling away? 

Being human, we naturally want security and certainty. And so we convince ourselves that following these guidelines will guarantee results.

Because of that, we sometimes push ourselves into talks or lengthy conversations with our partner, even when the relationship already feels off… or we walk away just because the “deadline” has passed, even if deep down it still feels right.

The question beneath it all is: 
Are outcomes more important than a meaningful, soulful relationship with deep connection?

Letting go of the urge to control outcomes allows trust to grow. And when we begin to trust divine timing and honour our true feelings, that’s when the one who’s truly meant for us finds their way to us.

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Why Men Stay: The Real Attraction Beyond Looks and Effort

The Truth About Why Men Stay

Most of us would agree that men are visual, but what we often don’t realize is that this is only part of the truth. Yes, men get attracted or distracted by something that easily catches their attention…but for them to be truly devoted in a relationship, they crave something much deeper…energetically and emotionally.

We might think that if we dress up nicer, look prettier, or even act smarter, they will stay with us forever. And so, without noticing, we begin unconsciously competing with other women. Sometimes we even believe that if we contribute more…in any aspect…it will make them appreciate us more. Yet what we don’t see is how all this chasing, proving, performing, and competing slowly pulls our focus away from ourselves.

Growing up, many of us heard other women say that we must be strong and not depend on men, because otherwise, they will never truly value us. While this belief isn’t entirely wrong, it was never the real reason men stayed.

A woman is most magnetic when she focuses on herself…when she grooms herself because it makes her happy, thrives in her career simply because she loves what she does, receives help and support because she accepts her vulnerability and knows her worth. And this is what a man craves.

When we shift our attention from focusing on a man back to ourselves, that’s when we begin to glow….from the inside out.

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Stop Chasing: How Women Can Stay Grounded and Let Men Lead in Courtship

Most people think that only men fantasise but…women do too, just in a different way. Women are intuitive, and we tune in to our senses and emotions easily. Sometimes, when we meet men who are interested in us, we know…but often, we react before anything certain or obvious is shown by them, especially when we feel the same way. We let our imaginations run wild with what it could be and what they can give us.

Often, we tend to jump in too quickly when they show small gestures, and start chasing them energetically, when the most crucial part is to stay put and wait. This is not passive or self-centred, but giving ourselves the benefit of doubt….because we deserve to be loved the way we want to be, and because this allows men to take charge in the courtship, as they’re wired to do.

When we allow nature to take its course, only then will both feel fulfilled and satisfied. And women will never need to question, “Does he like me?” because his actions will always speak louder than words.

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The Truth About Jealousy, Control, and Trust in Relationships

I don’t know when all this started…we strategise, plan, rehearse, guess, and try to control even in relationships…which are supposed to be built on sincerity, trust, love, and honesty.

We keep trying to control outcomes when things are meant to flow naturally. And when we feel it slipping out of our hands, we fear, get jealous, resentful, or even… give up entirely.

I see so many questions….how to stop a man from cheating, how to check his phone, how to confirm if he’s having an affair, why he looks at other women, doesn’t call often, doesn’t show affection, or doesn’t say “I love you” enough. But really, the simplest thing is to honour our feelings and trust that if it’s meant to be, it will be.

When we live in suspicion and jealousy, the truth is… we’re only hurting ourselves. We think proving ourselves right will make us feel in control, like we’ve “won.” But in relationships, that was never the point….and in the end, the one we lose is always ourselves.

Being in a relationship with someone we love is one of the sweetest things we can ever experience. Yes, sometimes it may go downhill, or end unexpectedly for many reasons. We may feel hurt, betrayed, disappointed… but often, it’s just the universe’s way of showing us that we were never meant for each other in the first place.

It takes time to heal, of course. But one thing is for sure….when someone leaves, it’s only because space is being cleared for the right one to arrive.

How to Stop Seeking External Validation and Start Trusting Yourself

Many people seek external validation to feel worthy, believing that once we get it, we will finally be satisfied. And so, we overwork, sacrifice our time and energy, or even betray our true feelings to achieve something the world calls success.

When we feel lost or unsure, we start looking for advice from those we think are more experienced. But when things still don’t work out after following their guidance, we assume we’ve failed. Rarely do we stop and ask: How would I do it? What feels right to me?

Without strategies, tactics, formulas, or rehearsed words, can we still be confident? Can we stay true to ourselves and do what we believe is right? Can we choose not to chase someone else’s so-called successful path, but walk our own…even if it means risking failure?

Some people secretly ask colleagues what their employer thinks of them, just to feel secure or to adjust themselves accordingly. Yet the most important thing is to trust our own judgment and decisions, without worrying about outcomes. Sometimes it’s not about being right or perfect…it’s simply about honouring our true feelings. And when we do, the right path reveals itself.

How do you honor your true feelings in daily life? Share with me in the comments…I’d love to hear