Being overly understanding can bring down one’s self-esteem. When someone breaks their promises again and again, tells us we shouldn’t want what we want, says they can’t give us what we want, and that our expectations are ridiculously high… we end up making excuses or creating reasons for their behaviour.
Trying to be understanding when we are truly sad and disappointed can hurt us further.
Over time, we may begin to believe that we’re not worthy enough to want what we truly want.
But when we are honest about what we really want and admit our true feelings, and when we accept that not everyone is meant for us…even though we once thought they were…that’s when what’s truly meant for us begins to reveal itself, gradually.
What are you willing to trade for the things you want?
My answer is simple.
Never trade yourself.
If you'd like to explore this question through 20 everyday situations, you can find my digital guide here:
How to Live With Dignity as a Woman