Should I Marry Him?

"Should I Marry Him?"

This is one of the most common questions people ask themselves before making a big decision in love.

After going through some experiences of my own, I’ve finally found my answer...at least, the one that feels true to me.

People might say, “If you love him, then yes,” or “It’s been so many years together, so you should,” or even “He treats you well...why not?”

None of these are wrong. But they also shouldn't be the only reasons you decide to marry someone.

For me, it comes down to one thing: If the feeling is right, then yes.

Not from overthinking, weighing every pro and con, or trying to predict the future. Because people change. Life shifts. Nothing is fully certain.

But your heart knows.

So now, I’ve learned to trust that quiet inner clarity.

If, in that moment, it feels right deep inside... not forced, not anxious...just quietly right…

Then yes. I will say yes.

❤️❤️

Thank you Grandma. I Love You...

I grew up in a broken family.

My grandmother took care of my sisters and me from a young age.

Recently, I was watching a TV drama and noticed how some elderly people feel embarrassed about using adult diapers or walking sticks as they grow older.

Don’t worry — I’m not here to convince anyone not to feel that way. I just want to share something about my grandma.

I’ve always wondered how she could be so brave and so proud of who she is.

There was one incident — she slipped and fell because of an old pair of slippery slippers. I came home from school and found out. My heart nearly stopped.

Thankfully, her children really cared for her. She recovered fairly quickly after some therapy and a short stay in the hospital.

But as we know, a major fall at that age usually leaves some side effects. She had to start using a walking stick, especially to support her weight (yes, she was quite a fatty grandma ❤️). But what amazed me was — she never felt embarrassed about it.

She used it because it was useful. She needed it. Simple as that.

A few years later, she started having urinary incontinence (I hope I’m using the right term). But instead of hiding it, she requested to use adult diapers. She didn’t want to wet her underwear.

Not everyone ages this way. Some people are healthy and strong even in their old age. But I just want to say — I’m so proud of her.

She was completely herself. She used what she needed. She was comfortable being real.

Of course, there were so many other things about her that I love and that I’ve learned from. Through her actions and presence, she taught me a lot about what love really is.

She passed away in 2007 at the age of 81.

And today, I just want to say:

I love you, Grandma. I miss you. Always. 💓💗

When No One Says Thank You…

Do You Do It for Love, or for Praise?

Have you ever found yourself doing something kind or thoughtful for others...and deep down, hoping for a thank you, a bit of appreciation, or maybe even a returned favor?

Let’s say you love to cook. You pour your heart into preparing meals for your family or friends, and it makes you feel warm inside... especially when they finish everything on the table, or give you compliments. But what if, one day, they’re too tired, too full, or just not in the mood to eat, even after all your time and effort?

Would you feel hurt? Unseen? Maybe even angry inside, like your heart’s on fire?

It’s okay. Those emotions are completely normal. Many of us experience this...the sting of being unappreciated, even when our intentions were good.

But here’s a little perspective I’ve learned and would love to share.

If you truly enjoy cooking (I do too, by the way 😊), does it really need to depend on others’ reactions? If they don’t say thank you or don’t eat as much that day...does it make your effort any less meaningful?

When you do something from the heart, out of joy, love, and self-expression...not obligation...then appreciation becomes a bonus, not a need. If you begin to feel like you have to do something, that’s when resentment or disappointment can sneak in.

So instead, do it because you love it. Because it makes you feel good.

This mindset applies to everything...not just cooking. Whether it’s advice you offer, help you give, or the effort you put into anything… if it comes from pressure or needing validation, you’ll feel empty when no one notices. And eventually, if you keep following what others tell you to do, without listening to yourself...you’ll lose your spark. You'll start to feel like a lifeless version of yourself, just drifting… waiting… fading.

So please, always follow your heart.

Praise is sweet, yes. But don’t let the lack of it stop you from doing what lights you up. You are worthy...with or without applause.

And when no one praises you, will you lie on your bed forever and stop living your truth?

I hope not.

I hope you smile, keep going, and keep doing what you love...just because you love it.

With lots of love 💓

Listen To Your Heart...

When you're lost... or in doubt...

I hope you listen to your heart.

I hope you’re clear about what you truly want.

I hope your decision reflects your deepest wishes.

I hope you voice what’s on your mind.

I hope your choices aren’t shaped by judgment or the expectations of others.

I hope you stay true to yourself.

I hope you find joy.

I hope you follow your heart.

I hope you do what feels right to you.

I hope you choose the path that aligns with your truth.

I hope you remain honest with your heart and soul.

I hope you're not afraid of making mistakes.

I hope you’re bold enough to take the leap.

I hope you feel fulfilled…always.

And lastly...

I wish you your happily ever after.

💗💗💗

What Marriage Means to Me Now

I just got out of an 11-year long-term relationship about two years ago. Not long after, I got involved with another man for 1.5 years, which ended about 1.5 years ago as well. These were the two most serious relationships in my life so far.

The second one… was the most heart-breaking.

After that, I started reading a lot of books on relationships and the law of attraction…and slowly, things began to make sense.

I’m a simple woman, just like many others…hoping for a happily-ever-after kind of love.

But now, I’ve come to realize… the man I eventually marry must be someone I can trust, respect, and genuinely admire.

Trying to control someone…or expecting them to change for you…is never the right thing to do.

I used to believe that if a man truly loved me, he would change for me.

Now, I see how wrong that thinking was.

The journey from dating to marriage can be long, and during that time, you begin to see clearly whether he's truly the right person for you.

I once thought, “If he’s rich, capable, and I have some feelings for him…then he must be the one.”

Hell no.

The real question is:

In that moment, deep down… does he feel like “the one” you’ve been looking for?

Can you trust your future with him?

Trust means:

You believe in his loyalty…without needing to check, question, or investigate.

You know he’ll take care of you.

You feel safe with him…simply from how he shows up in your life.

That’s when you know…he is your Mr. Right.

If you constantly find yourself wanting to change his career choices, his habits, or his way of thinking…

Then ask yourself honestly:

Is he truly the right person for you?

And vice versa…

How would you feel if your man constantly suspected you, checked your phone, questioned your every move, or tried to direct your life instead of supporting you?

Would you feel loved, or trapped?

Now imagine this instead:

You’re with a man who is free to have his guys’ night out whenever he wants…and you’re at peace because you trust him.

He tells you something bold he said to his boss…and even if it might affect his career, you feel proud of his courage because you trust his intentions.

He listens when you speak.

He makes time for you.

He surprises you…not just on anniversaries, but just because.

There’s no game.

No pretending.

Just flow.

Just ease.

Just knowing.

Wouldn’t that be a love worth waiting for?

To me, that would be the most perfect kind of marriage….

One where I can open my heart fully, and be truly seen and understood.

It took effort and inner work to reach this clarity… but I’m proud of where I am now.

And I sincerely wish every woman out there will one day find her happy ever after too. 💗

From a Child's Mind

Speaking from a child's heart, there’s something I truly hope every parent and adult can understand:

Always encourage a child whenever they want to try something new…even if it seems impossible to you.

A child’s confidence is incredibly fragile. Any form of criticism, teasing, or humiliation…even if unintentional…can shape their entire life.

I remember when I was a child, I used to be outspoken and confident speaking in front of people. There was once, when I was just five, a teacher called in sick and I actually stood in front of the class and started “teaching.” I still remember how proud and happy I felt.

But… an aunty of mine, who didn’t know how to encourage properly, started teasing me in a funny tone. I felt so embarrassed. Since then, I’ve never really overcome that fear of public speaking.

To this day…now at 33…I still feel the anxiety when I try to speak in front of people. I’ve attempted to give presentations, but anxiety kicks in. My face flushes, my mind goes blank, and I can’t finish.

Honestly, one of the few times I feel less afraid… is when I’m a bit drunk 😂

To those who’ve experienced the same kind of childhood embarrassment but have managed to overcome it…I’m genuinely happy for you. Congratulations. Truly.

Dear parents and adults…when children are unhappy or act out, ask them why. Let them express themselves…even if they're being naughty. Don’t shut them down or talk over their emotions. Just hold space, give them a hug or a kiss, and let them calm down in their own time. Let them know it’s okay to feel how they feel.

If we judge or scold before understanding, they may grow up hiding their emotions, thinking it’s not safe to be vulnerable. They might even do reckless things, just to feel seen. And worst of all…they might stop trusting that anyone will ever truly listen.

I’m not saying I have all the answers. But I believe it all depends on what kind of person you hope your child becomes: confident, expressive, proud… or reserved, quiet, and uncertain of their worth.

I don’t have kids yet.

But I do pledge this…

One day, when I become a mother, I will encourage my children. I will not laugh at their courage when they try.

So once again…I hope every parent and adult reading this can remember:

Be kind to every child, whether they’re yours or not.

Your words can shape a lifetime.

With lots of love,

❤️