From a Child's Mind

Speaking from a child's heart, there’s something I truly hope every parent and adult can understand:

Always encourage a child whenever they want to try something new…even if it seems impossible to you.

A child’s confidence is incredibly fragile. Any form of criticism, teasing, or humiliation…even if unintentional…can shape their entire life.

I remember when I was a child, I used to be outspoken and confident speaking in front of people. There was once, when I was just five, a teacher called in sick and I actually stood in front of the class and started “teaching.” I still remember how proud and happy I felt.

But… an aunty of mine, who didn’t know how to encourage properly, started teasing me in a funny tone. I felt so embarrassed. Since then, I’ve never really overcome that fear of public speaking.

To this day…now at 33…I still feel the anxiety when I try to speak in front of people. I’ve attempted to give presentations, but anxiety kicks in. My face flushes, my mind goes blank, and I can’t finish.

Honestly, one of the few times I feel less afraid… is when I’m a bit drunk 😂

To those who’ve experienced the same kind of childhood embarrassment but have managed to overcome it…I’m genuinely happy for you. Congratulations. Truly.

Dear parents and adults…when children are unhappy or act out, ask them why. Let them express themselves…even if they're being naughty. Don’t shut them down or talk over their emotions. Just hold space, give them a hug or a kiss, and let them calm down in their own time. Let them know it’s okay to feel how they feel.

If we judge or scold before understanding, they may grow up hiding their emotions, thinking it’s not safe to be vulnerable. They might even do reckless things, just to feel seen. And worst of all…they might stop trusting that anyone will ever truly listen.

I’m not saying I have all the answers. But I believe it all depends on what kind of person you hope your child becomes: confident, expressive, proud… or reserved, quiet, and uncertain of their worth.

I don’t have kids yet.

But I do pledge this…

One day, when I become a mother, I will encourage my children. I will not laugh at their courage when they try.

So once again…I hope every parent and adult reading this can remember:

Be kind to every child, whether they’re yours or not.

Your words can shape a lifetime.

With lots of love,

❤️