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I’ve heard many women wonder why men behave so differently before and after getting together. But there’s something we often overlook…our own behaviour.
Before being in a relationship, our focus is naturally on ourselves…our interests, our routines, our emotions. Yet once the relationship begins, that focus quietly shifts from us to them.
We start forgetting our girlfriends, our hobbies, our precious ‘me’ time….we forget ourselves.
When we stop tuning into our own feelings, we slowly lose our sense of self. And over time, people stop noticing us too…even the one we gave everything to.
Suddenly, their behaviour feels confusing: they care less, make less effort, no more dates, they turn distant, sometimes even emotionally unavailable, or shift their focus to other women altogether.
Many women believe that the more we give, the more love we’ll receive.
But almost every time, it turns out the opposite.
If we wish to be loved and appreciated the way our heart desires, we must begin by giving that love to ourselves first. When we do, everything we once longed for starts to unfold…softly, and effortlessly.
I occasionally write personal reflections for those who want to understand their patterns more clearly.
If you’re ready to see what may be keeping you stuck, click here.
