Learning to Honour Yourself in the Workplace

As employees, we often try so hard to prove our worth. We perform, we tolerate, we meet impossible expectations…because that’s what we were taught to do growing up. People around us call it responsibility, and so we keep going.

But slowly, we begin to crave recognition…to be seen, promoted, appreciated. 

We start depending on external validation to feel confident, to feel worthy.

When we’re mistreated or underappreciated, we convince ourselves to do even more…to prove ourselves again…or we accept it when promises made at the beginning are quietly broken.

Only to realise, over time, that our boundaries keep getting crossed… not because others can’t see us, but because we can’t fully see ourselves.

Forcing ourselves to meet everyone else’s expectations only pulls us further away from the path meant for us…until we forget who we truly are inside.

Can we honour our true feelings, even if it means risking our jobs?

Can we speak up when things feel impossible, even if others might see us as lazy or incapable?

Can we follow our own rhythm instead of denying ourselves when we’re given tasks that feel out of sync with us…just because that’s what people call responsibility?

And most of all…

Can we truly believe that if an opportunity is meant for us, there’s no need to prove, chase, or compete?

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When Letting Go Becomes the Only Way Forward

 

When we’re faced with challenges and hardships in life or in relationships, it’s normal for us to want to negotiate or cling to familiarity. We start listing out every single detail, trying to crack the code, trace back what went wrong…hoping we could fix it or control the outcome…but end up with more confusion and disappointment instead.

Uncertainty is frightening, we must admit that. When things around us don’t look promising…our partner isn’t responding the way we wish, opportunities seem to disappear, every path feels blocked. 

The things that once gave us comfort and security no longer exist. 

We tremble, we fear, we worry… and try to go back to what we thought would work before…but it doesn’t.

Letting go of control and fully trusting in faith is never easy, 

but it’s the universe’s way of telling us…it’s the only way forward.

Can we allow the paths that are meant for us to reveal themselves naturally instead of chasing them?

Can we feel secure even without any evidence yet?
Can we trust that all we’ve ever wished for will come to us effortlessly, in its own time?

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Why Men Change After Getting Together - and What Women Can Do Differently

 

I’ve heard many women wonder why men behave so differently before and after getting together. But there’s something we often overlook…our own behaviour.

Before being in a relationship, our focus is naturally on ourselves…our interests, our routines, our emotions. Yet once the relationship begins, that focus quietly shifts from us to them. 

We start forgetting our girlfriends, our hobbies, our precious ‘me’ time….we forget ourselves.

When we stop tuning into our own feelings, we slowly lose our sense of self. And over time, people stop noticing us too…even the one we gave everything to. 

Suddenly, their behaviour feels confusing: they care less, make less effort, no more dates, they turn distant, sometimes even emotionally unavailable, or shift their focus to other women altogether.

Many women believe that the more we give, the more love we’ll receive. 

But almost every time, it turns out the opposite.

If we wish to be loved and appreciated the way our heart desires, we must begin by giving that love to ourselves first. When we do, everything we once longed for starts to unfold…softly, and effortlessly.

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